Male Actor Who Says He’s ‘Female’: If A ‘Woman’ Has A Male Sex Organ, HE A ’Biologically Female’

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– A “transgender” actor caused a stir on Twitter over the past week with a series of tweets taking the “gender fluidity” mindset to a new extreme: that even male sex organs are “biologically female” if a gender-confused man thinks he’s a woman.

Indya Moore is an actor on the FX series Pose, a drama set in late-1980s New York that incorporates transgender themes. A male described in the mainstream press as an “actress” who identifies as “a biological non binary,” Breitbart reports that Moore claimed on February 17 that if a “woman has a penis, her penis is a biologically female penis.” Follow-ups and argument ensued over the next several days.

Indya Moore@IndyaMoore

If a woman has a penis, her penis is a biologically female penis.5,4283:01 PM – Feb 17, 2019Twitter Ads info and privacy7,676 people are talking about this

Indya Moore@IndyaMoore

Yes. https://twitter.com/Adrian_Hilton/status/1097597894570491905 …Adrian Hilton@Adrian_HiltonIf a man has vagina, is it a biologically male vagina?#AskingForAFriend https://twitter.com/IndyaMoore/status/1097269840165904384 …13210:54 AM – Feb 19, 2019Twitter Ads info and privacy67 people are talking about this

jayne crider@lyricalprisoner · Feb 16, 2019Replying to @IndyaMoore @lovebscott

Trans women are psychological women not biological women. However they are biologically human and whatever they desire to represent is their choice.

Indya Moore@IndyaMoore

Trans women are biological women gender/sex cannot be biologically defined in absolutes.869:41 PM – Feb 17, 2019Twitter Ads info and privacy81 people are talking about this

Indya Moore@IndyaMooreReplying to @JustinTHaskins

The definition of biologically is “in regards to biology, life, organisms , living processes, or Inheritance”2611:19 AM – Feb 20, 2019Twitter Ads info and privacy17 people are talking about this

Stan Kerr@spjk · Feb 19, 2019Replying to @robert_gaut @IndyaMoore

Brilliant point. A transwoman must be sure his doctors know he’s biologically male. Trying to fool them could be fatal.

Indya Moore@IndyaMoore

trans people aren’t a joke. Also the ways trans people recieve treatment are gender variant are dependant upon the organs the individual has. Some trans women have prostate exams- some trans men see a gynecologist, treatment really depends on body type.111:53 AM – Feb 19, 2019Twitter Ads info and privacySee Indya Moore’s other Tweets

In fact, basic biology teaches that the penis is the male sex organ, and the most obvious external indicator that someone is a man (aside from cases of hermaphroditism, which are extremely rare and don’t reflect the vast majority of “transgender” cases). Biological sex is rooted in an individual’s chromosomes and reflected in hundreds of genetic characteristics.

Nevertheless, PinkNews writer Josh Jackman claimed Moore’s position is “supported by science,” based on a study showing “the insula—a region of the brain—had a distinct volume depending on whether it was in the brain of a trans or cis subject.” Discussing the same study for LifeSiteNews last year, Michael Brown noted it was “equally possible that the MRI results point to changes in the brain because of fixations on gender resulting from gender confusion,” meaning the differences “could be the result of transgender fixations rather than the cause.”

n fact, basic biology teaches that the penis is the male sex organ, and the most obvious external indicator that someone is a man (aside from cases of hermaphroditism, which are extremely rare and don’t reflect the vast majority of “transgender” cases). Biological sex is rooted in an individual’s chromosomes and reflected in hundreds of genetic characteristics.

Nevertheless, PinkNews writer Josh Jackman claimed Moore’s position is “supported by science,” based on a study showing “the insula—a region of the brain—had a distinct volume depending on whether it was in the brain of a trans or cis subject.” Discussing the same study for LifeSiteNews last year, Michael Brown noted it was “equally possible that the MRI results point to changes in the brain because of fixations on gender resulting from gender confusion,” meaning the differences “could be the result of transgender fixations rather than the cause.”

Many questioned Moore’s reasoning and mocked his understanding of biology:

Geoffrey Miller@primalpolyReplying to @IndyaMoore

What biological evidence would lead you to change your mind about this claim? I’ll wait….34110:31 AM – Feb 20, 2019Twitter Ads info and privacy16 people are talking about this

Larry Farlow@LarryFarlowReplying to @IndyaMoore

Over 3,600 people “liked” this. Our culture is circling the bowl.3,0045:21 AM – Feb 20, 2019Twitter Ads info and privacy87 people are talking about this

PokinBabiesHead@pokinbabieshead · Feb 20, 2019Replying to @IndyaMoore

This shit is literally just to make people feel better and is not about biological reality

beard salmon @mamawrench

It’s the Whose Line of identity politics. Everything is made up and the points don’t matter.11:02 AM – Feb 20, 2019Twitter Ads info and privacySee beard salmon ‘s other Tweets

Kris Kaliban@Kris_Kaliban · Feb 20, 2019Replying to @IndyaMoore

So just trying to understand… Are you saying you are naturally “intersex”? As in, you have one of the conditions listed here (see ISNA link below), for example?http://www.isna.org/faq/frequency 

Kris Kaliban@Kris_Kaliban

@IndyaMoore, why did you block me when I was sincerely just trying to understand your claim of a biological link to your gender identity? I said nothing negative toward you.1:13 PM – Feb 21, 2019Twitter Ads info and privacySee Kris Kaliban’s other Tweets

Moore’s tweets highlight a relatively recent divide on the Left, as feminists and even some homosexuals find themselves stigmatized for refusing to accept gender-confused men’s claims to womanhood. This week, the LGBT sports organization Athlete Ally severed ties with Martina Navratilova, a lesbian tennis champion and left-wing activist who argues it’s “insane and it’s cheating” to let men “just proclaim yourself a female and be able to compete against women.”

https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/male-actor-who-says-hes-female-if-a-woman-has-a-male-sex-organ-its-biologic

Destroying The Liberal Claim ” Stop Breaking Up The Family” Feminism Has Destabilized The American Family, Proving The American Family IS all Ready Broken Up!

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In 1970, three furious feminist tracts dominated the bestseller lists: Kate Millett’s “Sexual Politics,” Germaine Greer’s “The Female Eunuch,” and Shulamith Firestone’s “The Dialectic of Sex.” They, and others who comprised what was then called the “women’s lib” movement, fulminated against male dominance, endorsed sexual liberation and demanded that the nuclear family be smashed.

Their fame has faded, but their influence lives on. Lena Dunham, who has built a persona as a spokesman for women, wondered how any woman could reject the label feminist (a 2016 poll found that 68 percent of American women use the term to describe themselves). Her free-floating contempt for men was evident in a recent tweet: “I’d honestly rather fall into one million manholes than have one single dude tell me to watch my step.”

Note the resentment, even when men are attempting to be kind. Dunham is voicing the 21st-century version of the 1970s slogan: “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” Without denying the beneficial effects of feminism, we are overdue for a reckoning about its missteps. One of those was stoking such bitterness between men and women.

While there is near-universal agreement that women should be treated equally in the workplace and in the family, other aspects of the feminist agenda — such as devaluing marriage — have left women more, not less vulnerable than they were pre-revolution.

In 2012, Katie Roiphe, feminist and mother of two children by different fathers, condemned concerns about single motherhood: “If there is anything that currently oppresses the children, it is the idea of the way families are ‘supposed to be.’ ” That’s the feminist mantra, but “alternative” families work only for a tiny minority. For most women, children and, as we’re coming to understand better with each passing year, men, the traditional family remains the gold standard.

Forty percent of American children are now born to single mothers

It should not be anti-feminist to recognize that men and women do need each other and that, contrary to feminist theories, marriage is a key pillar of stability for both sexes and especially for children. Feminists greeted unwed parenthood and easy divorce as steps on the ladder of liberation. For some it was and is. But the price has been steep. Women are commonly worse off financially after divorce than their ex-husbands. Those who worked before, during or after their marriages experienced a 20 percent decline in income after divorce, compared with men, whose incomes rose by 30 percent.

Forty percent of American children are now born to single mothers. This rate of non-marital births, combined with the nation’s high divorce rate, means that around half of all American children will spend part of their childhood in a single-parent home. Social scientists across the political spectrum agree this family chaos is destructive. In 2017, the poverty rate for woman-headed families with children was 36.5 percent, compared with 22.1 percent for father-only families and 7.5 percent for families headed by a married couple. And abundant data show married adults are happier, healthier and wealthier than singles.

The sexual revolution has scythed through the institution of marriage, leaving millions of women without the love and emotional and financial security that they and their children so need. It hasn’t been a picnic for men, either.

Recent studies about the effects of fatherlessness have revealed that the rise of single-parent (which usually means mother-only) families has had even worse consequences for boys than for girls. Father absence in African-American homes leads to more mental-health and behavioral problems for boys, according to an MIT study by two economists looking at brothers and sisters born in Florida between 1992 and 2002. “Growing up in a single-parent home appears to significantly decrease the probability of college attendance for boys but has no similar effect for girls.” They found other worrisome effects, too. “Fatherless boys are less ambitious, less hopeful and more likely to get into trouble at school than fatherless girls.”

Everything is connected. When more boys are growing up without fathers, there are fewer young men who become the kind of adults women want to marry — educated, employed, non-drug-abusing and not involved with the criminal-justice system. Without the grounding of marriage, men become disconnected from society. Some 22 percent of prime-age men (25 to 54) are not working or looking for work. Unmarried men are over-represented in this group. By contrast, married men with only high-school diplomas are much more likely to be employed than unmarried men with some college or an associate’s degree.

Diseases of despair — alcoholism, overdoses, suicide — have been rising among white, working-class Americans, the very population that has witnessed a steep decline in family stability over the past several decades.

Most women want and need upright, well-adjusted, dependable men to serve as co-anchors of healthy and happy families. The feminist movement was deeply misguided to take aim at marriage. Far from oppressing women, it offers a safe foundation for a full life. https://nypost.com/2018/07/07/feminism-has-destabilized-the-american-family/

Mona Charen is a senior fellow at the Ethics and Public Policy Center. Her new book,“Sex Matters: How Modern Femin

Debunking Gender identity Again: 12 Common Mistakes That Guys Make With Women

Here are 12 common mistakes that guys make with women, which can lead to rejection or a relationship break up.

How many of these mistakes have you made before?

1. Thinking that being nice to a woman is good enough

Being nice to a woman and expecting her to want to be in a sexual relationship because of it


There’s nothing wrong with being nice to a woman and there’s nothing wrong with being a good guy, but being nice to a woman isn’t the thing that makes her feel sexually turned on.

For example: When a guy interacts with a woman that he wants to get into a sexual relationship, if he is just being nice to her, that isn’t the thing that is going to make her feel sexually attracted to him. Being nice is not going to make her feel turned on.

She’s not going to say, “Wow! This guy is nice! I want to have sex with him and start a relationship with him.”

What a lot of nice guys and good guys don’t understand is that the majority of guys in this world are good guys. If a woman is attractive, most of the guys that she meets are going to be nice to her.

"But, I'm a nice guy..."

So, when a guy is nice to a woman it doesn’t mark him out as being special. What marks a guy out as special is when he can trigger feelings of sexual attraction inside of her. He can turn her on by what he is saying and doing when interacting with her.

When it comes to relationships, being nice to a woman is also not good enough. If a modern man wants a relationship with a woman to stay together for life, he has to deepen the woman’s feelings of love, respect and attraction over time.

He can’t expect that a woman is going to want to stay around and stick with him for life if he’s unable to deepen the love, respect and attraction over time. If he’s doing things that are making the woman lose respect for him or doing many things that are turning the woman off, then he can’t expect her to stick around. Why? The dating and relationship scene has changed.

If you think about how women used to select men in the past, you will realize that the dating and relationship scene has completely changed. In the past, a man would have to be nice to a woman, court her and show her that he could take care of her if they got married.

The old days...

When he was able to prove that he could support her, he would then need to ask her father for his daughter’s hand in marriage and then the couple would get married and lose their virginity on the wedding night. Generally speaking, most women couldn’t earn their own money in the past and they were almost completely dependant on men for support.

Today’s women can earn their own money and they can have sex whenever they want.

Modern women

Women no longer select guys simply based on how nice a guy is or how well set up he is to support her. The way that women select men for sex and relationship is now based on sexual attraction first and everything else after that.

If a guy makes a woman feel sexually attracted when he meets her, she will become open to the possibility of having sex with him or starting a sexual relationship. However, if he doesn’t make her feel any sexual attraction, she has no need to be with him.

If a modern man wants to get laid or get a girlfriend, he needs to actively attract women when he interacts with them.

You have to start with sexual attraction

These days, a guy needs to be able to say and do things that turn women on, rather than just being nice and expecting that he’s going to get a chance with the woman because he is a good guy with good intentions.

What a lot of guys don’t realize is that most most guys in this world are good guys.

Men in prison


If most guys in this world were bad guys, then everyone would be locked up in prison or jail and there would be total chaos on the streets. People would be killing each other all day and night, but that’s not the case at all.

Most people are good people

Most people in this world are good people and most guys in this world are good guys. So, when a guy meets a woman and is nice to her, it isn’t something that really amazes her. A guy being nice to her is a standard, default thing that she is going to experience with most of the guys that she meets.

There’s nothing wrong with being nice to a woman. If people tell you that nice guys finish last and that you shouldn’t be nice to women, they are wrong. There is nothing wrong with being a good guy, but what you also need to do is actively make women feel sexually attracted to you when you interact with them.

When you are interacting with a woman, you are either displaying the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women and turn them on, or you’re not. If you’re just being nice to women, you cannot expect them to want to have sex with you or start a sexual relationship with you.

Over the years, some guys have come to my website and said something like, “I’m nice to women…I talk to them nicely, I’m good to them and I’ve got good intentions, but they’re not even interested in me. What is going on? Why can’t they just like me? Why can’t they just see that I’m a good guy and give me a chance?”

The reason why is that it’s not about just being nice to her.

If you think about how we’re raised up as children. We are taught that if we are nice to people they will like us. Teachers or parents often say things like, “If you want to make friends, be nice to people and then they’ll be nice to you and you can all be friends.”

What happens is that a lot of guys end up confusing the advice they got as a child by applying it to their adult life.

Some guys think, “I’m attracted to that woman and I really like her. I want her to really like me, so I’m going to be really nice to her…I’m going to be very polite and very respectful…I’m going to show her that I really, really care about her and then hopefully she’s going to give me a chance to be with her.”

Yet, that isn’t how the dating process works.

Being nice to make her like you as a friend or a person isn’t what needs to happen to get her interested in having sex or a sexual relationship with you. You have to start with sexual attraction and everything else comes after that.

Today’s women select men for sex and relationships based on sexual attraction and then in a relationship, women stay with men who are able to deepen their feelings of love, respect and attraction over time.

In the past, a guy could just get himself a woman and then take her for granted. He didn’t have to worry about deepening the love, respect or attraction because it was shameful to divorce, so women stuck by men for life, even if they weren’t happy.

If he wanted to get himself a woman in the first place, he would need to get a job or show that he could support a woman, be nice to her and then he might be able to get her to say “Yes” to marrying him. They would then lose their virginity on the wedding night.

Yet, that’s just not the way that the world works any more.

In today’s dating and relationship scene, being nice to a woman is no longer good enough. There’s nothing wrong with being nice and there’s nothing wrong with being a good guy, but you also have to be able to make women feel sexually attracted to you based on what you say and do when you interact with them.

You have to display at least some of the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women. The more ways that you are able to attract women with your personality and behavior, the more they feel attracted to you. In a relationship, you have to know how to deepen a woman’s feelings of love, respect and attraction for you over time.

Taking a woman for granted and expecting that she will stick around is no longer something that guys can rely on. Today’s women can leave a marriage or break up with a boyfriend if they want to. They are no longer completely dependant on men, so in most cases, women only stay with men who they feel enough respect, love and attraction for.

2. Being too easily impressed by women

Men feel an instant intense attraction to women simply based on looks


What a lot of guys don’t understand is that there is a difference between how men feel attracted to women and how women feel attracted to men.

Most men feel an intense attraction to a woman’s physical appearance and her physical appearance is enough for the man to want to have sex with her or start a relationship with her.

Man looking at porn. Men are mostly attracted to the physical appearance of women


That is why porn has always been directed towards men. Porn has always been about providing images or videos for men to look at and then jerk off to.

This is also the reason why when a woman is walking down the street, guys will be turning their head and looking at her and thinking, “Oooh, look at that…I’d tap that…I want to be with her…I want to be her boyfriend…I want to have sex with her.”

The "Wow!" reaction to a woman's physical appearance

That instant reaction of being impressed by a woman happens simply based on her physical appearance. Yet, the same rule doesn’t apply to women.

Women can feel attracted to a man’s physical appearance, but what women are most attracted to is how a guy’s personality and behavior makes her feel. There are some women in this world who will only accept a perfect, good looking guy who is tall with a perfect body and also has loads of money. That is true.

However, the majority of women have what I call an Open Type, which means that they are open to being with all different types of guys as long as the guy knows how to make her feel attracted when he interacts with her.

So, the mistake that guys make is that they don’t understand the reality that women live in. Women go through life and if they are attractive, most guys are willing to have sex with them or start a relationship with them simply based on their appearance.

Even if the woman doesn’t have a nice personality or is a bit of a bitch, most guys are still going to be willing to have sex with her simply based on her appearance. After a while, that gets very boring for women; especially attractive women.

Group of cold women

What most women want (I say “most” because unattractive women do like it) is a guy who isn’t immediately 100% interested simply based on her appearance. What an attractive woman wants to experience is a guy who can actually make HER feel attracted. A guy who can turn HER on and make her feel like she wants to be with him.

Yet, most guys never give that to women because most guys feel intense attraction to a woman’s physical appearance and then confuse that with their interest level. They are attracted and 100% interested at the same time, without her having to say or do anything to impress them any further.

The guy is already 100% impressed by her and ready to have sex or begin a relationship with her just because she looks good.

3. Thinking that he can buy her attraction or love

Taking a woman out to dinner


There’s nothing wrong with taking a woman out to dinner and paying for it and there’s nothing wrong with talking to a woman and buying her a drink if you’re getting along and enjoying each other’s company.

Trying to buy her love

The mistake is where a guy feels like he can make a woman love him or feel attracted to him by buying her things (e.g. paying for drinks, buying her an expensive dinner, paying for her rent, etc). A guy like that makes the mistake of thinking that it will impress her and make her want to be with him because he is so generous and takes care of her like a princess.

100 years ago, buying women things was a great way to show that you could take care of them and were capable of being the breadwinner and providing for her. However, the majority of today’s women can earn their own money. They don’t need a man to pay for everything for them.

The number one thing that women are looking for isn’t a guy who can pay for a dinner, buy them a present or buy a drink for them. What modern women are looking for is a man who makes them feel sexual attraction and a man that they can also look up to and respect.

Women aren’t looking for a guy who tries to overcompensate for not being able to make them feel sexually attracted by buying them things. Women don’t want to be talking to a guy and thinking, “Okay, this guy isn’t very confident…he’s paying for all these things as a way to hopefully get me to like him” and then not feel much respect for him as a result.

What women are looking for is a guy who triggers feelings of sexual attraction inside of them, makes them feel turned on, makes them feel drawn to him and is also a guy that they can respect.

4. Thinking that attracting her or seducing her is wrong

Thinking that it is wrong to turn her on


Over the years, some guys have come my site and said things like, “I was raised up to be a gentleman. I am nice to women and I want to take them out on dates…and if they don’t like that, then bad luck for them. I’m not going to do anything other than be nice to them. I’m a gentleman…I’m respectful towards women and I want to show them that. If they don’t like that, they are crazy.”

What guys like that don’t understand is that women actively seduce men (i.e. by dressing in a sexy way to attract men and then being sweet and nice to men to make them feel like they have a chance) and they want men to actively seduce them.

For women, it’s very easy for them to attract us because all they’ve got to do is dress a little bit sexy, show some cleavage or wear a short skirt to show some leg. They can wear tight fitting pants or a tight skirt, put on some lipstick, make themselves look more physically attractive and then be sweet and nice and most guys will be willing to have sex with them.

It’s very easy for women to seduce men. If you’ve ever been to a strip club, you’ll see that the women in there are not only beautiful and sexy, but they also come across in a sweet, easy-going, friendly type of way. They know how to seduce guys.

Strippers know how to get guys thinking, “Wow! This girl is attractive AND she’s really nice to me. I really like her!” They are experts at seducing men.

However, what a lot of guys don’t understand is that women actually want to meet a guy who can make them feel sexually attracted and then seduces them into having sex. Not in a way where the guy is doing it against her will of course, but where she is feel attracted, is feeling like she really wants to have sex with him and is going along with it.

She is enjoying the process of feeling attracted, seeing the guy build up sexual tension between them and then release the sexual tension together with kissing and sex.

Here’s the thing though…

You won’t hear women going around saying this. Women will usually say things that are the complete opposite to what they want sexually, because they don’t want to come across as being too easy. They don’t want to come across as the “s” word.

A woman doesn’t want to come across in a way where, if a guy gets into a relationship with her, he won’t be able to trust her because she was so open and easy when it came to sex. Most women have to put on a bit of an act of innocence, so they will say things like:

  • I want a sensitive man.
  • I would never have a one night stand.
  • I hate it when a man tries to pick me up.
  • I want a nice guy.
  • I want a man to show me how much he cares for me.

When guys hear women saying those sorts of things often enough, they begin to believe that the secret to success with women is to avoid trying to attract them or seduce them. Many guys assume that they need to be nice, show the woman how much they care and then hopefully they will get a chance with her.

Yet, that’s not how it works.

You can have sex with most women pretty quickly and then start a relationship with them right away. Depending on the country, some statistics show that up to 70% of women have had a one night stand before…so women aren’t as innocent as most guys assume they are.

Personally speaking, I’ve had sex with more than 250 women and at least 100 of those women I had sex with on the first night. Pretty much all of them said something like, “This is the first time I’ve ever done this…I never have one night stands…I never do this…this is so unlike me.”

Women tend to come across in that way because they want you to be able to trust them. They want you to be able to see them as a woman that you can rely on and trust if you get into a relationship. It’s not easy for modern women because the dating scene has changed. It’s no longer about her saving herself for marriage anymore.

It’s a more complex dating scene now where women can have sex before marriage, but they can’t go around bragging about that, showing it off or talking about it because people will think that she’s an “s” or guys will think that they can’t trust her in a relationship.

Yet, she’s simply adapting to the modern dating environment and so are guys who understand what it actually going on. Many of the men who haven’t yet adapted to the modern dating scene are still thinking that it’s wrong to make a woman feel attracted or turned on when they first meet her.

They feel as though it would be disrespectful to use body language that would make her feel girly and turn her on, or to say things that trigger sexual desire. Yet, these days, you actually need to do it. Women select men for sex and relationships based on sexual attraction.

What a lot of modern men make the mistake of doing is trying hard to show a woman that he is a respectful, nice guy and he has good intentions. He wants her to get the sense that he will wait 10 dates to get a kiss or sex if he has to.

Trying too hard to be respectful

The thing is, there’s nothing wrong with waiting for 10 dates to have sex, but what a modern man actually needs to do when he starts interacting with a woman is make her feel sexual attraction.

Whether he and the woman wait 5 dates or 10 dates to have sex or they have sex on the first night is up to them, but what a guy needs to do is focus on making her feel sexually attracted to him when he first starts interacting with her.

Just making a woman feel friendly feelings or getting along with her as a friend and being nice to her, isn’t the thing that is going to make her think, “WOW! I want to be in a sexual relationship with this guy” because pretty much every guy that she meets talks to her in that way.

The guys who stand out are the guys who give her a little tingle “down there” and make her feel like, “Ooh…mmm…I want to have sex with this guy.” They are the guys who actively turn her on and make her feel sexual desire, rather than just being friendly and hoping that it makes her want to have sex.

5. Sharing his feelings before she is even properly attracted

If a guy hasn’t said or done anything to make a woman feel sexually attracted to him and he then tells the woman that he has feelings for her, it isn’t going to be much of interest to her compared to a guy who has made HER feel attracted first, turned HER on and made HER feel sexual desire.

Then, if he says that he likes her, she feels lucky that a guy that she feels attracted to also likes her. That is what she wants to experience, but most guys don’t allow women to have that experience because they don’t understand the reality that women live in.

Most guys will feel attracted to a woman’s physical appearance and then if she is then nice to him, he might say that he really likes her or that he has feelings for her. He might hint at wanting to be her boyfriend or ask her what she thinks of having a relationship with him, in the hope that he will be lucky enough to get a chance with her.

If he wants to be with her, he has to make HER feel attracted to HIM first. He has to make her experience sexual feelings and then she will actually be interested in the fact that he has feelings for her, because she has feelings for him.

A lot of beautiful women have the same boring experience over and over again when meeting guys and eventually get really annoyed by it. If a woman is beautiful, she will meet a guy and he will almost certainly feel very attracted to her immediately.

Then, if she is nice to him and talks to him, he might feel like all he has to do from there is be nice to her, ask her out and then they will begin a relationship.

After a bit of conversation, he might say things like, “I connect with you…you’re not like other girls…I really like you” and ask her questions like, “Do you have a boyfriend?” or “Can I take you out sometime?”

He’s going straight for the kill because he feels like her being nice to him means that she is interested in him sexually, but it’s not.

What women are looking to find is a guy who can make THEM feel sexually attracted and then build up the sexual tension to the point where she wants to reveal her feelings for him. She wants to experience the exciting feelings that are associated with wanting to reveal her feelings to the guy.

She wants to feel so attracted that she actually tells him that she likes him or hugs him, kisses him or touches him in a seductive or loving way. She wants to be feeling so much sexual attraction for him that she eventually just says, “I really like you” or “kiss me!” or “let’s go out on a date” or “let’s go home together.”

She wants to feel that, but most guys will never give that to her because most guys do not understand the reality that women live in.

Most guys are willing to have sex with a woman simply based on their attraction to her appearance

Most guys don’t understand that the majority of guys that a woman meets will have “feelings” for her if she is nice to them. If a woman attractive, pretty or even just decent looking and she talks to a guy in a nice, sweet way, most guys will become very interested in her and hope to get a chance with her. Eventually, many of them will reveal their “feelings” for her.

That is not the experience that an attractive woman is hoping to have. She is hoping to meet a guy who makes her feel like she has to chase him a little, she has to reveal her feelings and hopefully get a chance with him.

6. Thinking that he has to have money or looks to get a girl

Money or looks can definitely attract women, but they are not the only ways that a guy can attract women.

Most guys are not rich, yet they still have a girlfriend or a wife. Most guys are not male models, yet they still have a girlfriend or a wife. In other words, guys without good looks or lots of money, can and do attract women for sex, relationships and marriage.

Back when I was hopeless with women, I assumed that women didn’t like me because I wasn’t good looking enough. I was working in a normal job, so I assumed that they weren’t impressed by that either.

When I saw women happily talking to other guys at bars or parties, I assumed that those guys must be better looking than me, even though the guys were just average or below-average looking guys. I thought, “Okay…well, I guess those guys are good looking to women…and I’m not.”

What I didn’t know back then, but which I eventually realized is that you’ve actually got to spark feelings of sexual attraction when you’re interacting with the woman. Back when I was getting rejected by women, I was walking over and talking to them and asking things like:

  • “Hey…how are you doing?”
  • “How’s your night going?”
  • “What do you do for a living?
  • “How long have you worked there?”
  • “What’s your name?”
  • “How old are you?”

After that, there’d be an awkward silence and I’d be thinking, “What else can I say?!” and I would then run out of things to say.

I’d be thinking to myself, “Why can’t I keep a conversation going and keep it interesting when talking to a woman? Why does it just fizzle out all the time? Why aren’t girls interested in me?”

Back then, I didn’t realize that NOTHING that I was saying was making the women feel sexually attracted. Asking a girl what she does for a living and asking other boring questions like that isn’t something that makes her feel sexually turned on.

It isn’t something that makes her think, “WOW! This guy is so amazing and interesting…I want to talk to him. I’m feeling so attracted to him…I’m feeling so turned on.” Instead, it’s just a standard conversation that she’s had hundreds, if not thousands of times before.

It was only when I realized that I had to actively attract women that I then started to experiment with saying and doing certain things that made women feel sexually attracted to me. When I did that, things instantly started to change.

Women felt attracted to me, I was able to kiss women within 10 minutes of meeting them and then 5 minutes. Then, I started taking women home for sex and enjoying that lifestyle. My newfound ability to actively attract women was now allowing me to have my choice with women, rather than hoping to “get lucky” with a woman.

It was no longer about trying to be “liked” for being a good guy. Now, I was a good guy who was ALSO sexually attractive to women. Being able to make women feel sexual attraction was what made all the difference.

Before I knew how to actively attract women during an interaction based on what I was saying and doing, I thought the reason why women didn’t find me attractive was that I wasn’t good looking enough.

I also assumed that I didn’t have a good enough job. I drove a cheap, average type of car, so I thought that women wouldn’t be impressed by that. I simply assumed that I wasn’t good enough for attractive women.

A lot of guys make this same mistake where they feel as though they can’t attract beautiful women because they’re not good looking enough or they don’t have loads of money. However, the fact is that most guys are not rich and most guys are not male models, yet they still manage to attract and have sex with, or a relationship or even a marriage with beautiful women.

7. Doing whatever she wants in the hope that it will impress her and make her like him

Doing whatever she wants in the hope that it makes her like him


When a guy doesn’t know how to make women feel attracted to him, he’ll often think that solution to get women interested must be to treat women like perfect princesses and do whatever they want in the hope that they are nice enough to “give him a chance.”

He might think, “Okay, I’m going to do whatever this woman wants…I’m going to say yes to whatever she asks of me…I’m going laugh at all of her jokes and buy her whatever she wants. Then, hopefully she will see that I’m a good man and she will like me too.”

Yet, that’s not how it works.

When a woman sees that a guy doesn’t respect himself very much and is willing to say or do whatever he can to hopefully get her to “like” him, she doesn’t feel respect for him. Women don’t feel attracted to guys that they don’t respect. Trying to kiss a woman’s butt by doing whatever she wants is a sure path to a rejection or a break up.

The way to get women to be immediately interested in you is to spark feelings of sexual attraction. Sexual attraction is where the power is. If you’re not actively making women feel sexually attracted to you when you approach them, then there’s almost no need to approach; most women simply aren’t going to be feeling what they really want to feel when they meet a guy.

8. Being annoyed when women test, rather than seeing it as an opportunity

Women test men all the time. It doesn’t matter what level of skill you have at attracting women, making them feel respect for you or making them love you; women will still test you.

An example of a test is where a guy is talking to a girl that he likes and they’re getting along well. Suddenly, she stops showing interest and stops contributing much to the conversation. In most cases, when a woman pulls back her interest like that, she is simply testing the guy’s confidence.

Woman testing man

She wants to see whether he is going to feel insecure. She wants to see if he’s going to desperately begin to chase her and confess his feelings for her. She wants to see what sort of guy he really is.

What a lot of guys don’t understand is that a woman’s test is an opportunity to make her feel more attraction. When you can maintain your confidence in yourself and not get flustered by the test that she’s putting you through and just continue to believe in yourself, it actually makes her feel attracted to you.

The same thing applies to relationships. When a guy is in a relationship with a woman, it doesn’t matter how much attraction she feels for him, it doesn’t matter how much she respects him and it doesn’t matter how much she loves him; she will ALWAYS test him.

Why? When a woman tests a man and sees that he is the man, he is confident and he is the masculine one, it makes her feel attracted to him. It maintains her respect for him and allows her to fall more deeply in love with him.

However, if she tests him and he crumbles under the pressure, fails the challenge and can’t deal with it, then he’s most likely not man enough for her.

In the past, women would put up with guys who weren’t able to maintain their attraction and respect because it was shameful to divorce. Yet, whether we like it or not, most women are not ashamed of divorce anymore and simply leave guys who can’t make them feel what they really want to feel.

Relationship has fallen apart


In today’s world, a guy needs to know how to deepen a woman’s love, respect and attraction for him over time. If he doesn’t know how to do that, the relationship will most-likely fall apart.

9. Trying too hard to be liked

This is a classic mistake for guys who don’t actually know how to attract women.

They don’t know how to make women feel sexually attracted to them, so they will often use the approach of trying really hard to be “liked” as a guy. He might be a great friend to her, do favors for her and generally “be there” for her.

Yet, that isn’t what makes a woman feel sexually attracted and turned on.

There is a big difference between a woman “liking” a guy as a friend and feeling “sexual attraction” for him. A woman can like a lot of guys that she meets as a friend or as a person, but that isn’t the same as her feeling sexually attracted and turned on by how a guy talks to her and interacts with her.

If a guy doesn’t make a woman feel sexually attracted, it doesn’t really matter how hard he tries to get her to like him; she’s just not going to be feeling what she really wants to feel.

10. Being insecure

Being insecure


Some examples of being insecure are when a guy:

  • Approaches and talks to a woman: He might doubt himself, feel nervous or intimidated.
  • Is on a date: He might try too hard to impress, appear nervous or intimidated.
  • Is in a relationship: He might become overly protective, jealous or clingy.

None of those things make women feel sexually attracted to a guy because women are naturally attracted to the mental and emotional strength of men and are turned off by any weaknesses.

Imagine a world where women rewarded men with sex, love and devotion for being insecure…

Generation after generation, women would successfully breed more emotional weakness into the human race, which wouldn’t help anyone. The most insecure men would get the best women, which might end up turning us into a race of emotional wimps.

Women instinctively seek to breed strength into the human race, not weakness.

Some guys may think that it’s unfair that women find emotional strength attractive. They may feel annoyed that women can’t accept their insecurity, shyness or lack of confidence and just like them for who they are, but it’s just how nature works.

To be successful with women, a man needs to understand the fundamental personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women. He then needs to begin displaying those traits and behaviors, rather than expecting women to go against their natural instincts.

When a guy presents the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women, success with women is simple and permanent.

Women feel naturally attracted to him, without him having to try hard to be “liked.” Women naturally like him and naturally feel attracted to him because he’s displaying the personality traits and behaviors that are naturally attractive to women.

11. Not even knowing what to do to succeed

Most guys still don’t even know that it’s possible to improve their skills with women. They assume that if they have failed with women in the past, it means that they are no good with women and can’t really do anything about it.

Most guys also don’t even know that it’s possible to attract women while they interact with them. They are going through life thinking that they either have to be super nice or they’ve got to be good looking with loads of money and then they’ll get a girl.

Yet, it is possible to attract women based on what you say and do. You do not have to be good looking or rich to attract women, get laid, get a girlfriend or get laid. All you need to do is know how to actively attract women when you interact with them. When you can do that, women naturally find you attractive and want to be with you. It’s pretty simple.

Another type of guy who comes to my website is a guy who is having problems with his relationship. The spark has died or his girl has dumped him. When a guy like that arrives at my site, it’s almost always the case that he doesn’t even know how to deepen a woman’s feelings of love, respect and attraction for him.

He’s hoping that if he’s just nice enough to her then that will be good enough, but it’s not.

To keep a relationship together, you have to know how to deepen a woman’s feelings of respect, love and attraction for you. You can’t just be good to a woman and think she will stick around because it’s not enough to keep a modern woman in a relationship.

100 or 200 years ago, women had to put up with not really feeling much respect or attraction for their man. They had to stay with him because it was shameful to divorce, but not anymore. In today’s world, if a woman isn’t feeling more respect, love and attraction for her man and is instead losing respect, love and attraction for him, then the society around her tells her to move on.

It’s unfortunate, but that is the world that we live in these days.

12. Making excuses rather than addressing the real issues

Making excuses for his lack of success with women


Pretty much every guy who is not succeeding with women has a secret excuse (or a number of excuses) as to why it’s not happening for him. Some guys will say:

  • If only I was taller.
  • I have to lose some weight first.
  • I’m not good looking enough.
  • I have to get a better job first.
  • I have to go to the gym for a year first and build some muscle.

Yet, what guys like that fail to realize (or accept) is that they always see other guys who don’t fit the mould of being perfect, with a beautiful girlfriend or a wife.

Have a look at these photos here…

Look at this guy with his beautiful girlfriend. Does he look like a guy with a perfect body and a perfect face? What’s she doing with him?

Ugly guy marries pretty woman

Well, it turns out that they had a family and then they got married.

Ugly guy has a baby with a beautiful woman

How about these guys…

Fat men marrying beautiful women


They are both very overweight, but they’ve each got a beautiful wife. Most guys are going to say, “Okay, it must be because the guy is rich,” but the guy being rich is not not always the case. Why?

Fat guys with pretty women

Most guys are just getting by financially or working in a normal job that pays a normal income. Most overweight guys are not rich, but they still can attract and marry a beautiful woman.

Don’t just assume that if a guy who isn’t typically good looking has a beautiful girlfriend or wife, it must mean that he is rich. Most people are not rich. In almost all cases, the guy got her by making her feel attracted and then beginning a relationship with her.

How about these guys…

Bald guy with pretty woman. She finds him attractive

They are both bald. One has a beautiful girlfriend and the other guy has a beautiful wife. Isn’t being attractive about having a full head of hair? How can these guys get a girlfriend or a wife if they don’t have hair on their head?

How about Asian guys with white women…

Asian guy marries white girl. She finds him attractive

How is this possible?

Even Asian guys who are overweight can have pretty white girls. How is it possible?

Fat Asian guy with pretty girlfriend

How about these guys…

These black guys are with white women…

Black guys with white women

…and here is a white guy with a black woman and an Asian guy with a black woman.

White man marrying a black woman. Asian guy marrying a black woman

How about this guy with his big ears. Why would she like him?

Guy with big ears with beautiful girlfriend

How about this guy…

Guy with a weird nose with a beautiful girlfriend

He has a funny looking nose. Why is this girl with him, when she could be with a guy who has a perfect, male model type of face?

Do you think that the guys in those photos are better than you? Do you really think that they are better than you and that you can’t attract women?

Here’s the truth…

If those guys can attract women, then YOU can attract women. It doesn’t matter what secret excuse you hold onto for not being successful with women (e.g. looks, height, body shape, race, financial status, etc). If you are not successful with women, it’s pretty simple: You don’t know how to properly attract women when you interact with them.

You most-likely do not know how much POWER you have when it comes to attracting women. The truth is that you CAN make women feel INTENSE attraction for you based on what you SAY and DO when you interact with them. You do not have to hope to get selected based on looks. You can MAKE women feel attracted to you.

If you are going through life thinking that you’re not good enough for attractive women, then you are wrong.

Stop wasting your life being unsuccessful with women

You are good enough.

You CAN make women feel attracted to you.

If you have been getting rejected by women, it means that you have not been making them feel enough attraction for you based on what you are saying and doing when you interact with them. You can change that. You can learn how to attract women properly.

If you’ve gotten dumped by a woman you love, it means that you weren’t doing a good enough job of deepening the love, respect and attraction that she feels for you. You can change that. You can learn how to deepen a woman’s love, respect and attraction for you in a relationship.

You do not have to get rejected by women when you meet them and you do not have to get dumped out of a relationship. Why? It is possible to be one of the guys who can attract women at will and it’s also possible to be one of those couples that you see who are 30-40 years into a relationship and are still extremely happy.

The couple is more in love than ever before and they still cuddle, kiss, hold hands and laugh together.

That is possible.

Some Important Questions For You

To finish up now, what I’m going to do is ask you some questions about each of the 12 mistakes, so you can work out whether or not you’ve ever made these mistakes with women.

I used to make these sort of mistakes myself, so after I’ve asked you the questions, I’m then going to tell you what I did to stop making those mistakes and start experiencing easy, natural and consistent success with women.

1. Thinking that being nice to a woman is good enough

Have you ever tried using the strategy of being very nice to a woman and then hoping that she “likes” you enough to give you a chance with her?

2. Being too easily impressed by women

Do you behave, think and act differently when you’re talking to a beautiful woman vs. an unattractive woman?

Do you tend to give beautiful women the impression that you would love to be with them, even though they haven’t done anything to impress you other than look good?

3. Thinking that he can buy her attraction or love

Have you ever tried to get a woman to feel attracted to you or remain interested in you by taking her out to an expensive dinner, buying her drinks or buying her an expensive gift?

4. Thinking that attracting her or seducing her is “wrong”

When you talk to women, do you hold back from saying and doing things that will turn them on because you think it would be disrespectful?

Has anyone ever told you that women love guys who can turn them on in a discreet way?

5. Sharing his feelings before she is even properly attracted

Have you ever felt so attracted to a girl that you blurted out how you felt about her, but then she said that things were moving too fast or that she only wanted to be friends for now?

6. Thinking that he has to have money or looks to get a girl

Have you ever felt as though you’re not good enough for attractive women because you don’t look good enough or make enough money?

Have you ever seen guys who aren’t good looking or rich with beautiful women and not been able to work out why the woman is with him?

7. Doing whatever she wants in the hope that it will impress her and make her like him

Have you ever been on your very best behavior in the hope that it would impress a woman and make her like you, only to have her then tell you that she just sees you as a friend?

8. Being annoyed when women test, rather than seeing it as an opportunity

Have you ever thought that women are silly, annoying, frustrating or even stupid for playing “mind games” without realizing that they were simply trying to test your confidence so that they could feel attracted to you or remain attracted to you?

9. Trying too hard to be liked

Have you ever tried way too hard to be liked by a woman to the point where she sensed your desperation and it turned her off?

10. Being insecure

Have you ever felt nervous or unsure of yourself when talking to a woman that you were really attracted to, but then felt confident when talking to a woman that you didn’t find attractive?

Have you ever become jealous, needy or clingy in a relationship because you felt insecure about the woman’s desire for you?

11. Not even knowing what to do to succeed

Do you know how to attract women when you approach them, or have you been approaching women and just hoping to be liked because you’re a good guy?

Do you know how to deepen a woman’s respect, love and attraction for you in a relationship, or have you just expected that a relationship would last because it felt good at the start?

12. Making excuses rather than addressing the real issues

Have you ever decided that you can’t attract women because of your looks, race or financial status, even though millions of other guys similar to you can attract beautiful women?

Have you ever thought that it is impossible to keep a woman happy in a relationship, even though millions of other guys similar to you are able to do it?

So, how many of those mistakes have you made with women? Personally speaking, I’ve been guilty of pretty much all of those, but what made a difference for me is that I learnt how to do the right things.

When I learned how to do the right things, I was then able to attract women when interacting with them. I was able to have sex with women on the first night I met them and I enjoyed my choice with women for many years.

Then, when I was 35 years old, I met my sexy, 20 year old girlfriend and recently, at the age of 37, I got engaged to her and now I’m going down the path of marriage.

I’ve had sex with more than 250 women and I’ve enjoyed having total power, control and choice with women and now YOU can have that power, control and choice as well. You can actually have your choice with women. You can attract women at will, so you can choose the right women for you.

Then, in a relationship, you can deepen a woman’s feelings of respect, love and attraction for you over time.

You can really do that. Yes, you.

Your Success With Women

If you’d like to learn what you need to know to be successful with women, here is what you might want to learn about next:

  1. The Flow
  2. The Modern Relationship
  3. Make Her Love You For Life

The first program that I would recommend is my ebook The Flow. This ebook will teach you how to naturally attract women and get laid or get a girlfriend by going through my simple, proven to work, Flow process.

The Flow prevents rejection by ensuring that a woman feels very attracted to you and really wants to be with you before you ask for a phone number, move in for a kiss, ask her out on a date or have sex with her.

The Flow

Read it now

Another program that you might want to learn from is The Modern Relationship. This video program will teach you how to create and maintain the ideal type of relationship dynamic that deepens the love, respect and attraction over time.

You are in the position of power and your woman tries hard to impress you, please you and maintain your interest.

The Modern Relationship

Watch it now

The third program I would recommend for you is Make Her Love You For Life.

This is my latest program and teaches you how to keep the love and spark alive in a relationship for life.Watch it now

The more you learn from me, the more skilled you become at attracting women when you meet them and then deepening their love, respect and attraction in a relationship.

The more you understand, the easier it gets.

Instead of trying hard to be “liked” when you meet women, they feel naturally attracted to you and they want to be with you.

Instead of stressing out about losing your woman to another man, you can relax and be confident in yourself and the relationship because the love, respect and attraction is deepening over time rather than fading away.

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Debunking Gender Identity: Top 10 Mistakes Men Make with Women (Major Turn Offs! And What to Do Instead)

We all have our own unique challenges related to the way we see and interact with the world around us. The good news is that if you really do want to know how to get a girl to like you and be your girlfriend, a lot of your challenges could be avoided by becoming more conscious of the huge differences in how men and women navigate the world.

There are so many ways that otherwise good people mess up what could be healthy relationships.

Believe me — I hear them all — but most of them fit into just a few key categories. For simplicity sake, I want to outline some of the most common relationship mistakes men make to help guys get their girl — and keep her.

Good news: if you see yourself in some of these examples, you can turn it all around make an effort. After all, if you’re married, it sure beats losing half of your stuff, and it can very well make your life a lot more fulfilling in the long run.

So here they are, the 10 biggest relationship mistakes men make, in no particular order:

1. You don’t bring her presence.

No, not that kind of presents. I’m talking about a gift of another kind. I’m talking about the same qualities that make YOU feel good.

You know how it feels when you’re grounded, centred and on top of your game? You’re crystal clear on who you are and what you want. You say what you mean and you mean what you say. You stand firm and you’re unwavering in the face of resistance.

2. You don’t “get” or understand women.

Feminine energy navigates the world via emotion, so sometimes it may appear that she’s all over the place: happy one minute and raging the next. You should know that description falls far, far short of the definition of “psycho.”

While that may be hard to understand when we masculine types navigate by logic and making sense, just trust me when I tell you that you’d do the same if you had her body chemistry.

When you understand that her emotions aren’t irritating interruptions to your boring status quo, but instead a welcome diversion that actually livens up your world and brings you the best things in life like passion, fun, and excitement, you’ll see she actually makes your world better every single day.

Face it: left to your own devices, you’d probably work too much and have a lot less to look forward to on a regular basis. Look at it this way: the masculine experience is kind of like a colouring book drawing: clear, simple, bold outlines that are fine standing alone on their own.

However, they are totally lacking in tone, depth, dimension or colour of any kind. But then the feminine energy brings all the colours of the rainbow to it and it becomes brighter, more vibrant and even radiant.

Sure, every now and then, the darker colours come out and they may even colour outside the lines, but it does make life more interesting. Approach it this way and you’ll have a whole new appreciation for all the gifts your lady can bring to your world.

3. You are scared or intimidated by her.

I hate to even bring this one up, but some of you know it’s true so let’s just get it out of the way. Guys tend to want to be in control and the truth of the matter is feminine energy is all about flow. Men can’t really hold back the “flow” of the tides, and feminine energy can’t effectively be controlled long-term either.

Tougher guys than you have tried to control . A smart man knows how to channel that energy instead.

Sometimes it’s like a storm. It can be a perfectly beautiful day, and the next thing you know, the clouds appear, the skies get dark and all hell breaks loose. Rather than controlling it, you ride it out, respect it, and know it’s all part of the cycle of life.

There’s no sunshine without rain; no happiness without grief; no black without white. The good news is that on the other side of the storm, the sun comes back out, and life is beautiful again.

4. You made other things more important than her.

Feminine energy responds to adoration and praise. She needs your attention and the presence we already talked about. A compliment and your conscious focus will light her up from the inside and you will get to bask in the glow of her beautiful feminine radiance.

On the other hand, because masculine energy tends to be single-focused, targeted and an inseparable part of who you are as a man, you will — on occasion — ignore her, overlook her and maybe even take her for granted while your attention is elsewhere. This is to be expected; especially when it comes to work and providing for her, but just know that like all things, it has to be balanced.

Remember, any time you fail to make her feel special and put something or someone else ahead of her for an extended time, trouble is on the horizon. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

5. You’re oblivious to her feelings.

Now that you know that feminine energy navigates the world via emotion, you’ll need to learn to become consciously aware of how that works or you will struggle in relationships with women. Those are your choices, so choose carefully. I hate to see someone lose half their stuff in order to get that lesson so believe me, it pays to get outside of your own self-absorbed viewpoint and be cognizant of how your partner is feeling.

Do you remember that “single-focused” aspect to men that we already discussed, especially when it comes to work? That’s where a lot of the trouble starts in this area, but it is a learned skill.

By the way, notice I didn’t say you had to “fix” her emotions. They don’t need to be fixed, even though we all think we need to fix problems. You just have to notice them, acknowledge them, and ride them out with her while you support her. That’s not so hard, right?

6. You didn’t build trust or you broke it.

This is an area where men struggle quite a bit due to several factors. We’re logical while they’re emotional so we tend to be way less committed, especially early on. By the same token, feminine energy tends to think she’s in a “relationship” far sooner than men because she processes emotionally. That combination of logic and lack of early commitment often leads to men looking at other options rather quickly.

Whatever mitigating factors may exist, the fact remains that trust is critical for a great relationship. Once it’s compromised or even threatened, it is difficult for two parties to regain it. So whenever possible, I urge you to proceed in this area with caution.

7. You’re too wishy-washy and made her feel unsafe.

This is the flip side of the presence I talked about in item number one. As intoxicating as a strong, present man can be, a wishy-washy guy who’s all over the place can be positively repulsive. It’s a huge turn-off and for good reason.

Feminine energy’s number one need at all costs is to feel “safe.” She can’t feel safe at all if she’s with a spineless, jellyfish of a guy that she can push around. She may act like she wants to call the shots herself all the time the truth is, it is absolutely exhausting for a feminine woman to live in her masculine energy for that long.

Do both of you a favor and step up into being the kind of man she can rely on to look after what’s best for both of you. Trust me, if you do this, you’ll both thank me for it.

8. You’re too self-absorbed.

 Masculine energy is heavily predisposed and wired to pursue his mission and achieve goals. He displays his value by his ability to solve problems and fix things. As a result, his needs are often met on the most consistent basis through his work or career.

In fact, one of the biggest red flags of a relationship in trouble is a man who spends a lot of time at work — not because he may be having an affair — but simply because his needs are being met primarily in the sphere of work and not in his relationship.

As I said in mistake number four, any time you put work or anything else ahead of your relationship for an extended time, trouble is on the horizon. Honestly, if you’re not willing to make the effort to manage your work/life balance, you’re essentially being unfair to both a potential partner and yourself.

9. You don’t see the value of what she brings to you.

Usually when someone is far more interested in work, recreational activities or maybe even hobbies, they are simply living in alignment with their deepest values. Relationships — or at least the one you may be in at the moment — simply don’t measure up to the payoff you’re getting in other areas.

People will always invest their energy where they feel they get the biggest payoff. A man who is inspired and supported in his mission by his woman will find a way to have both, but it’s up to him to prove he has the bandwidth to support both.

Remember: You can get all the promotions and raises you want — or land the huge deals that really get your heart pumping — but the question I have for you is: how rewarding is it really if you don’t have someone special to celebrate your victories with at the end of the day?

10. You don’t know what you want out of life.

It’s my hope that after reading this advice on the relationship mistakes men make, you’ll start to focus less on old mistakes from the past, and instead focus more on the new information I’ve shared and how to turn it all around.

The simplest answer is that if you’ve had more pain than joy from your relationships in the past, and it stands to reason that you wouldn’t exactly be in a hurry to try again, but that’s just the pain and fear talking.

No matter what you decide, the reality is that your knowledge, awareness, and efforts are creating the life you’re leading, whether you like it or not. We can all only get so far by ourselves. As you’ll likely hear at many weddings, the beauty of marriage or relationships is that you get to multiply the joy in life and divide the pain when you meet the right one for you.

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GENDER IDENTITY AGAIN DEBUNKED! Why Some Men CAN’T ‘Man Up’: Scientists Prove Males ARE More Sensitive To Pain Then Women – Especially If They Suffer A Repeat Injury

  • Men remember earlier painful experiences with more clarity than women 
  • Men get more stressed out about pain when it is in the same location 
  • Research was done on mice and then on humans to confirm the findings 
  • Scientists say it could lead to a breakthrough in treating chronic pain 

Men and women feel pain in a different way and males are more sensitive to it, researchers have found. 

They also discovered men remember earlier pain with more clarity than women and, as a result, get more stressed out when suffering again in the same location.  

Women, however, take a more nonchalant response and do not get worked up as much by previous painful experiences. 

Research was done on mice and then on humans to confirm the findings and scientists say it could lead to a breakthrough in treating chronic pain.  

Women take a more nonchalant response than men and do not get stressed by previous painful experiences (stock)

Women take a more nonchalant response than men and do not get stressed by previous painful experiences (stock)

‘We set out to do an experiment looking at pain hypersensitivity in mice and found these surprising differences in stress levels between male and female mice,’ explains Jeffrey Mogil, professor of pain studies at McGill University, who did the research.  

‘So we decided to extend the experiment to humans to see whether the results would be similar. 

‘We were blown away when we saw that there seemed to be the same differences between men and women as we had seen in mice.’

Forty-one men and 38 women between the ages of 18-40 took part in the study where they were taken to a specific room and subjected to low levels of pain via heat to their forearm. 

Humans rated the level of pain on a 100-point scale and then were asked to conduct arm exercises for 20 minutes while wearing a tight blood-pressure measuring cuff. 

Only seven of the 80 subjects rated it at less than 50 on a 100-point scale. 

The following day the subjects returned to either the same or a different room and subjected to more pain at the source. 

Men remember earlier painful experiences with more clarity than women and, as a result, get more stressed to later pain in the same location (stock)

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Men remember earlier painful experiences with more clarity than women and, as a result, get more stressed to later pain in the same location (stock)

WHAT IS PAIN?  

Health professionals use different terms for different types of pain.

•Short-term pain is called Acute Pain. An example is a sprained ankle.

•Long-term is called Persistent or Chronic Pain. Back trouble or arthritis are examples.

•Pain that comes and goes is called Recurrent or Intermittent Pain. A tooth ache could be one.

Pain signals use the spinal cord and specialised nerve fibres to travel to our brain.  

Pain is never “just in the mind” or “just in the body” – it is a complex mix involving our whole being.

Source: British Pain Society  

Only when they were taken into the same room as in the previous test did the men rate the heat pain higher than they did the day before.

It was also rated higher by men than by women.

‘We believe that the mice and the men were anticipating the cuff, or the vinegar, and, for the males, the stress of that anticipation caused greater pain sensitivity,’ says Dr Mogil. 

‘There was some reason to expect that we would see increased sensitivity to pain on the second day, but there was no reason to expect it would be specific to males. 

‘That came as a complete surprise.’   

 The full findings of the study were published in the journal Current Biology. https://www.cell.com/current-biology/fulltext/S0960-9822(18)31496-9?_returnURL=https%3A%2F%2Flinkinghub.elsevier.com%2Fretrieve%2Fpii%2FS0960982218314969%3Fshowall%3Dtrue

Gender Identity Debunked!45 Scientific Facts About Differences Between Men and Women!

You’ve got to remember that men are men and women are women. And although a lot of similarities, there are some real differences.” — Helen Fisher

Besides being the fodder for essentially every comedian who’s ever lived, the differences between men and women are, of course, pretty fundamental to the fabric of human life. They’ve been debated for millennia, with varying degrees rational argument used to implement social and legal norms which, in theory, help us to navigate our differences. Obviously, the whole thing is a bit of a quagmire—and people have used all manner of pseudo-scientific nonsense to help further their downright sexist agendas.

But with that being said, there are some genuine differences in the biology, chemistry and mental make-up of men in comparison to women, and vice-versa. Here we list off 45 of them, in the hopes that the next time you’re tempted to make an assumption about the opposite sex, you stop and take some time to consider the facts.


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45. Acoustic Size Judgement

A recent study in the Biology Letters suggests that men have an enhanced ability to judge someone’s size by the sound of their voice.

Not that this ability is necessarily exclusive to men. Other studies have shown that all people have a hard-wired talent for guessing a person’s height, weight, and facial features, based on only a sample of their voice. But men do have a particular aptitude for it: they have been shown to correctly guess a person’s general appearance, using their voice, at about 1.5 times the rate that women are able to.

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44. Seeing Things Differently

Men and women literally see things in different ways. Men have thicker retinas and larger M cells than women. The M cells are responsible for tracking the movement of objects. Women have more P cells, which are responsible for identifying objects, as well as analyzing textures and colors.

Promise us you won’t use this one the next time you’re in a fight with your significant other. “That’s what you saw, but you’ve got a statistically-dissimilar number of P cells than me,” is not a valid argument when one party has been accused of leaving the seat up.

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43. Right Minded

Women and wen process information differently. Men use mostly the left hemisphere of the brain, while women tend to employ both hemispheres.

More specifically, women tend to develop verbal capabilities in both sides of their brain. It’s this “design” which leads to a scientific observation in which girls will commonly use more words than their male counterparts if they are asked to describe a story, person, object, feeling, or place.

Men, meanwhile, tend to have their verbal ability concentrated in only the left hemisphere… as well as fewer “verbal centers” overall. They also have less connectivity between the regions of their brain responsible for memory, and the regions responsible for language and self-expression.

All of which might help to explain a common stereotype: that women are better than men at speaking about their feelings, and are better at it anyway. We’re a long way from fully understanding the difference, but so far it seems to be that women are just built more effectively for emotional communication.

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42. Formed Before Birth

Male and female fetuses start showing brain differences as early as 26 weeks. At that stage, female brains start developing a thicker corpus callosum, which is the part of the brain that connects the left and right hemisphere.

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41. Cool as a Cucumber

During periods of stress, both men and women release the hormone oxytocin… but female estrogen combines with the oxytocin to create a calming effect, while the relationship of testosterone to oxytocin has a tendency to make men more aggressive.

Once again, it seems that the science of brain chemistry is bearing out a pretty cliché stereotype.

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40. 3-Dimensional Thinking

Men are better able to think of objects three dimensionally than women are. This skill may have been developed back in the days when men hunted and regularly participated in competitive battles.

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39. Faces & Moving Objects

In a female baby’s first few month of life, their eye contact will increase by over 400%, and a boy’s will show significantly less improvement. In a study done on 100 babies on the day of their birth, girls were found to prefer looking at a young woman’s faces, while boys preferred moving objects.

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38. Mathematical Mind

The area of the brain that is thought to influence mathematical ability is larger in men than in women. The brain areas that control math and geometry skills also mature about four years earlier in men.

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37. A Spare Chromosome

Most babies that are born with defects and disabilities are male. One major reason for this is that females have a “spare X chromosome.” Essentially, this results in redundancy that protects against certain recessive defects caused by genes on the X chromosome. For example, if a male baby is born with the gene for red–green color blindness on its X chromosome, the boy will have red-green color blindness. However, a female baby needs to have the red-green color blindness gene on both of its X chromosomes, which is much less likely to occur.

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36. Popped Up Veins

The more muscle-mass a person has, the more blood is needed to fuel it. As muscle mass builds, so do veins. Since men on average have more muscle-mass than females, they tend to have more prominent veins.

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35.Honey, Have You Seen My Keys?

Women are better at remembering where things are than men are. Women are also more likely to navigate using landmarks, while men navigate using direction and distancces. So a woman is more likely to say, “Go straight until you hit the MacDonalds, then turn right and continue until you reach the top of the hill.” A man is more likely to say, “Drive north for three miles, then turn east on Liberty Street. Continue on Liberty for two miles.”

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34. Hears Like a Bat

Girls have 11% more neurons than boys in the brain centers that control language and hearing. Not only do women hear better than men, they can also better distinguish between a broader range of emotional tones like crying.

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33. Brow Bossing

There are three major differences between a male and female forehead. The most major difference is that men tend to have a ridge of bone running across the forehead at brow level called “brow bossing.” Women’s foreheads are smoother, flatter, and have little or no bossing.

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32. Store Fat Differently

Women tend to store fat in a ring shape around the abdomen, while fat in men is deposited between their organs. Women are genetically engineered to carry more fat than men, and tend to store it in their hips, thighs, buttocks, and lower abdomen. Men tend to store fat in the upper body, and especially the abdomen, thus creating the “beer belly.”

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31. Feel More Pain

Women genuinely feel more pain than men. When experiencing pain, a woman’s left amygdala–the part of the brain that is associated with internal functions–is activated. When men experience pain, the right amygdala is activated.

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30. Chronic Worrywarts

Women worry more than men. There is no single reason for this, but hormone differences and environmental factors play a part. On the bright side, worrying gives women an advantage when it comes to foreseeing and handling problems.

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29. He’s Not Just Ignoring You

During male fetal development, testosterone impacts the formation of the auditory system, and causes the brain to block out unwanted noise and repeated sounds. When a person repeats themselves several times, the male brain registers it as an “unwanted repetitious acoustic stimuli,” and they genuinely don’t hear it. Women on the other hand don’t have that skill.

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28. Better Spatial Sense

Men’s parietal regions are thinner than women’s. This makes it easier for them to visualize rotating 3D objects.

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27. Finger Length

The hormones testosterone and estrogen control the genes that determine finger length. More testosterone is generally equated with a longer ring finger, while estrogen is associated with a longer index finger.

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26. Conflict and Competition

Men get a positive chemical boost from conflict and competition, while conflict elicits negative chemical reactions in women, creating fear, stress, and sadness. This ties back to nature, where the females of certain species rely on social ties for survival.

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25. Colour Detection

Women are better able to detect shade variations in colours than men. Some scientists believe that sex hormones are behind the differences, as male sex hormones can change the development of the visual cortex. It’s also possible that the skill was developed in the days when women were gatherers, as it would have aided their search for food.

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24. Processing Emotion

In adolescence, the brain activity associated with negative emotion moves from the primitive area of the brain into the cerebral cortex where language and reasoning centers are located, but this only happens in girls. This is why women are better at expressing emotion, while men seldom “want to talk about it.”

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23. Neurological Disorders

More men than women suffer from neurological disorders like dyslexia and autism. Studies have found that this is a matter of genetics. Male brains are more prone to genetic flaws, while women require more extreme genetic mutations to develop the same conditions.

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22. Consonants and Vowels

As men and women age, men tend to have more difficulty hearing high-pitched sounds (consonants), while women struggle with low-pitch sounds (vowels).

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21. 1000 Gene Difference

Women have a harder time metabolizing alcohol because they have less of a liver enzyme that breaks it down. There is a difference of 1000 genes in male and female livers. These extra genes help men process alcohol faster, which means that they are less likely to feel the effects of drinking than women.

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20. No Sleep? No Problem.

A study out of Duke University revealed that men tolerate sleep deprivation better than women do. When women don’t get the sleep they need, they suffer mentally and physically. They are at higher risk of developing heart disease, depression, or blood clots, while men suffer fewer consequences.

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19. Physical vs Verbal

Men tend to express aggression physically, while women express it verbally. This is because a man’s aggression pathway is more directly linked to the brain areas for physical action, and a woman’s is more closely linked to areas of verbal function.

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18. Cold Feet

Blood flow in women is more concentrated around the lower extremities, while in men it’s spread more evenly. This is why women’s hands and feet get colder than men’s.

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17. Water in the Blood

A woman’s blood contains more water and 20% fewer red blood cells than a man’s.

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16.  Not as Sad as You Think

The same hormone that produces breast milk in women also produces tears. Since women naturally have more of that hormone than men, their bodies produce also produce tears more easily than men. Some women have higher levels of the hormone, which makes them cry at the smallest stimulation, and not necessarily because they’re sad.

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15. Multitaskers

While some studies have found that men are better at multi-tasking, others have shown the opposite. The accumulated data so far suggests that men and women are equally matched when it comes to their multi-tasking abilities, and as they age, they lose that ability at equal rates.

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14. Linguistically Inclined

Women have larger frontal and temporal areas of the cortex, which are thought to influence language skills. These parts of the brain mature about 6 years earlier in girls than in boys.

If, in elementary school, it ever felt like the girls were running circles around the boys in the “not sounding like little morons” department, this might just explain why. When it comes to expressing oneself, men just drew the short-end of the evolutionary stick.

Smiling Language Master.

13. A Neater Hand

Girls develop fine motor skills earlier than boys do, which lends scientific validity to the stereotype that women have neater handwriting than men. Men and women also grip writing implements differently, which also affects motor skills when writing.

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12. The Incredible Shrinking Brain

The female brain is more flexible than the male brain, and during pregnancy, women experience a major restructuring of the brain. Stress circuits are suppressed, the cortex increases in size, and the rest of the brain experiences shrinkage. No brain cells are lost in the transition, but new networks form and pathways change until the brain returns to normal around six months after delivery.

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11. Both Sides vs One Side

When it comes to responding to emotional experiences, men only use one side of the brain while women use both sides. Women also retain a stronger memory for emotional events than men.

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10. Sniffing Out Adultery

A study published in the Journal of Human Nature found that men are better at reading subtle clues about their partner’s infidelity. Studies have also revealed that men are more bothered by sexual infidelity, while women are upset by emotional infidelity.

Men are also more likely than women to falsely suspect cheating… quite possibly because the prospect of such unfaithfulness bothers them much more than their female-counterparts.

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9.  The Big Sniffer

If there’s one single fact that we’re a little worried to share here, this is it:

Men have 10% larger noses than women.

There. We said it.

Look, we know that the whole “which gender has the bigger nose” argument has been raging for centuries, if not millennia. We know how sensitive some people are to the issue. But it’s true, and the science backs us up on this.

The masculine predisposition to elephant-style shnozzes, is tied to their larger muscle mass. It simply requires more oxygen for men to maintain muscle tissue growth and maintenance. And a bigger requirement for oxygen intake means a need for bigger nostrils… really! The difference in nose sizes starts to become apparent at age 11 when boys develop lean muscle mass, and girls grow more fat mass.

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8. Bigger Hearts

Men literally have bigger hearts than women. A female heart is about 2/3 the size of a man’s, and beats fewer times per minute.

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7. Loose Ligaments

Women have looser ligaments than men, which gives them a greater range of movement, and makes it easier to do things like the splits. The downside to this greater flexibility is that women are at greater risk of joint injuries.

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6. Thin Skinned

Women have thinner skin than men, and are thus more prone to develop lines and wrinkles as they lose collagen from aging. Men also have a higher collagen density, which makes them look younger longer.

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5. Longer Lifespan

Women have an average life expectancy that is 5.3 years longer than men, largely due to better immunity, reduced risk for blood disease, and lower risk taking.

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4. Tunnel Vision

Men use 7x more gray matter for activity than women. The gray matter areas of the brain are the information and action-processing areas, which can create a kind of tunnel vision in men when they are doing something.

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3. Unfriendly Faces

During Puberty, the hormone vasopressin works with testosterone in males to influence a boy’s perception of faces. In one study, girls who were given a dose of vasopressin were more likely to rate a neutral face as friendly, while boys rated neutral faces as unfriendly or hostile.

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2. Goodnight, baby

Many people have heard the stereotype that after sex “men want to sleep and women want to talk,” but most people don’t realize that it’s actually much more complicated than this. Both sexes release oxytocin during orgasm, which is the “cuddle  chemical” that makes people want to bond.

However, men have higher testosterone levels which not only can dull the effects of oxtocin but also can encourage seeking out the next high. Researchers have pointed out that men don’t always want to sleep: they often want to eat, drink, or smoke, seeking out the next reward. But they also experience higher levels of sexual exhaustion, which is actually more mental than physical, which can soomtimes make them want to sleep.

Women, on the other hand, often experience something else after orgasm: the desire for another one. Female physiology allows them to be multi-orgasmic, with much shorter recovery time than men.

So there really are some phsiological factors that may make it hard for men and women to be on the same wavelength after doing the dirty.

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1. Equal Intelligence

While Men have physically larger brains than women, size does not directly correlate with intelligence. What’s learned by experience or study helps forge neuronal connections,  which in turn determines intelligence.

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